Last week’s focus was on not complaining. I hope you learned a valuable lesson: Complaining solves nothing! It doesn’t even make you feel better. It probably makes you feel worse.
This week let’s work on something that will make you feel better: Focus on the solution. Not complaining isn’t quite enough. It’s a step in the right direction. If you find something to complain about, then you’ve found something that needs a solution.
Being solution focused requires a new perspective — a perspective of:
How can I make things better?
Where complaining is pointing the finger at sources of unhappiness outside yourself, focusing on the solution means finding the source of happiness within yourself. Where complaining solves nothing, the solution focused approach solves everything.
Focusing on the solution requires a new direction:
Moving forward
People who complain tend to stay stuck. They don’t accomplish much. Finding a solution helps you move forward and progress through life. A solution focused approach smooths out the bumps along the road to life.
How have you felt when you found a really great solution to a problem. You felt awesome, right! Create that experience again and again this week.
Finding a solution may not be easy. It may mean compromising or finding common ground. Sometimes you may have to use some elbow grease to get a good solution. Other times you have to just let go and let the problem solve itself. Sometimes, the idea will come like a bolt of inspiration.
Whatever the process, focus on the solution. And… Let us know how it goes!!
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